Pingpong children

They  best symbolize the concern of October  synod   which ends  Sunday:  The  “pingpong children”  shuttle between separated parents are  trapped in wars  or swept in often chaotic  immigration waves.

Set up by Paul VI in 1965, the synod convenes  to give the Pope  counsel on key issues. The third ever held, today’s  synod brought together 184 bishops plus 69 laymen, sisters and priests.

Pope Francis jolted  the synod when he added  six to the team that will write its “Final Report” which  will anchor  the  October 2015 synod.  “That  could be a game changer”, America  weekly notes.

Note the spread of Francis choices: The cardinal- archbishop of Washington, DC and an Italian who heads the pontifical council for culture; president of the Korean Bishops’ conference and Father General  of the Jesuits, rector of the Catholic University of Buenos Aires plus  the  Archbishop of Tlalnepantla, Mexico.

Luis Antonio Cardinal Tagle presided over a  session that  heard  George and Cynthia Campos from  Couples for Christ in the Philippines. George is an engineer and Cynthia  a psychologist. They have four children.  CFC is present in all 81 Philippine dioceses and has been brought to 163 countries.

As a  novice, Cynthia was told by the retreat  director:  “Your work is outside. God will give you a husband who will help you rear children who’ll serve Him.”  That turned out to be George who, at age 46  quit his job of 25 years. “I spent the first half of my life serving this firm,” he told the owner. “Now, I’ll spend the second half serving the Lord.”

On her fourth pregnancy, Cynthia was  diagnosed with gestational diabetes and pre-eclampsia and her life was at risk.  The child had a high probability of being born abnormal. Abort or risk.  Choose. “We  decided to abide by the will of God”. She survived and daughter Christen is now a healthy adult.

In 1998, breast cancer struck and Cynthia was given with 3 to 6 months to live. Instead of letting go of CFC service “we continued – with prayers. Now, I stand before you cured with a simple medical intervention and antibiotics.”

But how about those who do not have a support group?  They were stunned when a local church advisory came  that CFC is  “meant only for couples married in Church”. The Synod can foster  “an enlightened pastoral charity,” they said. That’d  inaugurate  innovative forms of “accompaniment,” of conjugal spirituality formation and of inclusionary participation leading to full communion.
Luis Antonio Cardinal Tagle of Manila told the news conference that  some of the bishops felt the “spirit” of Vatican II in this synod,  New York Times reported.  He said the  mid-synod  report was a marker against which bishops could “see what needs to be deepened, what needs to be clarified, and what other things should be raised.”

At the synod’s first plenary session on Oct. 6, Francis gave  what was “akin to a bill of rights that creates a climate of freedom,” Gerald  O’Connell  wrote. Say what you  really think. And do so in total freedom and without fear of consequences.

“You bring the voice  of local churches through the bishops’ conferences…” Francis  told them: “You bring the realities of the churches, to help them to walk on that way which is the Gospel of the family.”

“A  cardinal wrote to me after the Consistory of Cardinals in February 2014,” the pontiff  recalled. He said it was a pity that some cardinals did not have the courage to say certain things, thinking perhaps that the pope thought differently.  “This is not synodality’, Francis  said. “It is necessary to say everything that in the Lord we feel must be said. We must listen with humility all that our brothers say.”

And do so with  peace, because the synod is conducted always with Peter  who guarantees custody  of the faith.

Today’s  climate of freedom depart from previous  synods where Vatican bureaucrats  clamped “discreet but effective censorship,” said Archbishop Jose Maria Arancedo, president of the Argentine Bishops.   Even more  damaging was the self-censorship by participants. The second week found disagreement aired by bishops from Poland and the US.

There’s  consensus on the question of the indissolubility of marriage. But other  positions emerged when applying this principle to how mercy is matched with  justice.   Is there a  path that can open the door to the reception of the sacraments of reconciliation and communion for divorced and remarried Catholics?

“Homosexuals have gifts and qualities to offer the Christian community”, says   a new synod document titled “Relatio”, Reuters reported  Monday.  Often they wish to encounter a Church that offers them a welcoming home. Are we capable of guaranteeing them  further space in our communities?

It did not change the Church’s basic stand on homosexual unions. But it  clearly reflects Pope Francis’ desire to adopt a more merciful pastoral approach on marriage and family issues, wrote Vatican expert John Thavis.

Mercy can, in some cases, be offered too cheaply in the style of  cheap grace, that pastor-martyr   Dietrich Bonhoeffer  critiqued, New York Times Ross Douthat wrote, from  well-intentioned relief new forms of injustice can fall on children or spouses who are secured by the line the church draws on marriage and the ideal it upholds. “A mercy too easily given to some can be effectively unmerciful to others.

“There can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way it treats its children,” Nelson Mandela wrote. The pingpong children know that.