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In the Legal Alternatives for Women Center, Inc. radio program “Takna sa Kababayen-an” at DYLA some challenges related to children was discussed. A major one is that many children are not safely in their homes or going to school. Many are in our streets. Some get into the jeepneys “caroling.” Many respond by reminding them such behavior (going up and down the pujs) could be risky. Some drop coins into their palms. Others are angry, are irritated. From government come reminders regarding the anti-mendicancy law which penalizes extending help.

As children’s month is about to end, have we given children a serious consideration? In a previous column we have expressed appreciation for the work of DILAAB with children. They have worked on providing gathered street children with a sense of dignity. Aside from catechism sessions they are given a bath. They have been supported as they return to school. Their birthdays have been celebrated! And now work is being done for a children’s center.

When the children are “gathered” or “collected”; where are they brought to? Prison? Many life stories are testimonies of how children become social problems with such a move. Is it best that they be brought home? How many of them have homes? The parents should be penalized? Will this improve their treatment of the children?

In “Sa Mata sa Kababayen-an” aired by CCTN, Ms. Maricel Madamba and Angie of the Department Social Welfare and Development pointed out that local government units such as the barangay ought to have a council for children and ideally a facility for children who need care and assistance, especially if they have been involved in negative activities. Many requirements are demanded for such facilities. What can be done so they do not get in conflict with the law repeatedly? How do we keep them safe from recruiters for runners in the drug trade? Educational institutions also need these councils and child centers.

DSWD reminds us about the rights of the child this month: to life and to all aspects of growth (includes good health); to safety and security; to protection from abuse; to education; to participation — to be heard and to have a voice. They also pointed out that in Pantawid Pamilyang Pilipino (3Ps) gatherings women dominated the membership and meetings. Does this suggest the limited involvement of fathers in their families and children’s upbringing?

Spanking or other forms of physical punishment is often used to end misbehavior. Atty. Noemi Truya Abarintos considered this a shortcut. Recently many feature articles have emphasized the effects of the traditional, negative discipline. Other problems which may result which I gathered from readings: fear may lead “to an increased risk of future antisocial behavior including crime and substance abuse”; “harsh discipline teaches children that violence is the only way to solve problems.”

At the same time, a beautiful discussion on positive discipline has these to say. “Positive discipline begins at birth. The bonds of attachment and trust that are formed when parents consistently and compassionately respond to an infant’s needs become the foundation of discipline. Help the child explore safely, seeing the world through his eyes and empathizing as he experiences the natural consequences of his actions. Try to understand what need a child’s behavior is communicating. Children often communicate their feelings through their behavior. Resolve problems together in a way that leaves everyone’s dignity intact.

Understand developmentally appropriate behavior, and tailor loving guidance to the needs and temperaments of your child.”

How can communities promote among parents, teachers, and other adults positive discipline? Will the longer maternity leave help?