CEBU CITY, Philippines—It’s normal to fall out of love.
When this happens, it usually leads to ending a relationship.
Dumping someone will be painful for both sides, but it can be done the right way with less stress and fewer tears.
How? Be brave enough to say goodbye and follow these tips:
Don’t ghost
Don’t leave without giving a reason. Or don’t just vanish into thin air without any trace. Face the consequences of saying goodbye. Your partner deserves to be informed of whatever reason you are leaving.
Don’t end it through phone
Don’t dump someone through call, text or through social media. That’s totally not acceptable. Again, be brave. End it face to face so emotions can flow out from both of you and questions can be answered right away for better closure. And it also disrespectful to end it through a letter, chat, text or call.
Don’t cheat
Don’t cheat your way out of a relationship. That just shows how much of a coward you are for not being able to say goodbye before starting a new relationship. Karma comes around really quick, too.
Don’t lie
Stop making excuses. Tell the person the truth on why you want to be free. And please, stop with that “It’s not you, it’s me” or “I need space” reasons, please. That’s so childish.
Timing is the key
Don’t dump someone when the timing is really off. That’s just plain mean. Do it when the time is right for both of you and do it in a neutral place. If you started the relationship by choosing a perfect time to express your feelings, do the same when ending one. Also, choose a right place for something that lifts you up after a heartbreak.
These tips are meant to help a couple end the relationship on a positive note. It’s important to keep these in mind.
Who knows? There might be a second chance for both of you. /bmjo
